Wedding RSVP: what to ask guests so the responses stay manageable

Which questions to put on the reply form so it's easy for guests and useful for you.

RSVP looks simple: you want to know who's coming. In practice the replies carry the final headcount, meal choices, plus-one count and a handful of details you'll need across the rest of planning.

The best RSVP form is short, mobile-friendly, and only asks what you'll actually use.

1. Coming or not?

Put this first. Don't bury it under a long preamble. The guest should see immediately what's being asked.

Example: "Can you join us?"

  • Yes, I'll be there.
  • Sadly I can't make it.

2. Plus-one

If you allow plus-ones, the RSVP has to handle it cleanly. If not everyone gets one, per-guest links prevent the awkward case.

Example: "Bringing a plus-one?"

3. Meal and dietary needs

Catering needs this early. Ask for meal choice and dietary requirements together.

Example: "Any dietary needs or restrictions?"

Leave a free-text field — not every need fits a preset option.

4. Optional extras

Don't overdo it, but a few extras can be useful:

  • Do you need transport?
  • Do you need accommodation info?
  • Any song requests?
  • Anything else we should know in advance?

5. Don't ask too much

Long RSVPs get postponed. Aim for under a minute to complete.

In Weddly every guest gets a personal RSVP link, and the replies flow straight into the guest list.

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